How behaviour affects your life

Have you ever stopped to think about the fact that behaviour affects every single aspect of your life, every day, from the moment you are born until you take your last breath?  For something that is so omnipresent, it is routinely misunderstood and definitely misinterpreted.

Behaviour, both your own and that of those around you, has an impact on

  • relationships,
  • physical and mental health,
  • choices,
  • habits,
  • success,
  • personality, and
  • overall satisfaction with life.

Stop for a minute and think about how your life could be improved if you had a better understanding of how behaviour works and could apply that knowledge to various aspects of your life.  Powerful stuff.

Behaviour is a cycle that is influenced by various factors, both intrinsic and extrinsic.  The relationship between influencing factors and your behaviour contributes significantly to how you experience life.  There are numerous factors that can influence behaviour and common ones include:

  • biological needs;
  • individual personality traits;
  • different environments where you spend time (home, work, school, etc.);
  • relationships including family, friends, co-workers, classmates, etc.;
  • emotional needs; and
  • past behaviour.

While our day to day experiences are varied and can seem to have nothing in common, there is a shared thread woven throughout them and that is behaviour:  how we behave, how others behave, and how we react to behaviour.  Many of us spend too much time ruminating about how the behaviour of others affects our life but that is actually not as important as you might think.  There is much more power in understanding your own behaviour and how you react to behaviour.

Think about a behaviour that you would like to change or improve.  Now, instead of focusing on the behaviour you want to change, think about what happens right before that behaviour typically occurs and what happens right after that behaviour occurs.  The key to changing a behaviour is in understanding those two factors.  You don’t need to analyze the behaviour or contemplate where the behaviour originated and why.  Understanding those things might bring about comfort but it will never help you change.  Behaviour perseveres thanks to an environment that allows it to happen and consequences that make it likely to happen again.

We are heavily bombarded daily by other people’s behaviour, both good and bad.  Behaviour we like from others typically helps us to create better relationships with those people and contributes to our overall feelings of happiness.  Behaviour we don’t like can negatively tax our relationships as well as our own physical and mental health.  It doesn’t have to.  Instead of having a strong reaction to the behavior of others, think of it more as information.  This helps to remove or minimize an emotional reaction and encourage you to be more objective about the behaviour.  If it is appropriate, you can take that information and help set up the environment so that a more desirable behaviour in encouraged.  Or, you can simply acknowledge the information that behaviour has provided.  You do not always need to respond to the behaviour of others.  This is important so I am going to repeat it.  You do not always need to respond to the behaviour of others.

Behaviour affects every aspect of your life from big decisions to mundane daily activities.  If there are aspects of your life that you have struggled to change or improve, understanding how behaviour works is what will help.  While humans are great at over complicating behaviour, Kindred Connection breaks it down into information that is easy to understand and tools that are even easier to use.

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